Do I have to invite people whose wedding I have been to?
Question: Do I have to invite people whose wedding I have been to?
Answer: by The Knot
Generally it is correct protocol to at least consider inviting them. After all these friends and family members felt that your relationship was close enough to warrant an invitation to their big day.
Factors that may skew your decision would be the difference in numbers (if you are inviting 50 people as opposed to their 500); when their wedding was held (say you attended their celebrations fifteen years ago, which was when you actually used to hang out all the time); or if you were invited by a work colleague who you haven’t worked with, or spoken to for that matter, in ages.
Most couples assume that everyone would want an invitation to their wedding day, but consider that this may not be so either. If you have drifted apart, they live in a different country or there are other reasons that they may have trouble getting to, or enjoying being at your ceremony or reception, it might actually be a huge relief not to have your pretty envelope show up in their mail box!
Always be considerate though. If you are friends via the online social media circuit, then respect that they might get hurt feelings finding out about every detail leading up to and after your wedding, without an obvious reason as to why they were not included. Consider starting up a wedding web page and only include those who you are inviting.
Plus, if it was simply a case of extreme numbers imbalance, take the time to explain to the people in question why you haven’t been able to include them. You may get a cool response, but it’s better to have the reason out in the open than hurt feelings festering unspoken for months or even years.
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