How Does The Wedding Party Line Up?
Question: What is the proper order to line up the bridesmaids and groomsmen? I was under the impression that you have them in the order of who is important in your life. Someone else said you put them in order by height. Which is right?
Answer: by The Knot
This question is actually tougher than it sounds. The height thing is a matter of opinion, not etiquette. If it matters to you aesthetically, you may very well want to line people up by height. But the idea of lining up your attendants in order of importance — the maid of honour (perhaps your sister) closest to you, then your best friend, then your cousin, and then your other two close friends — makes sense too. The one weird thing about that is that all of these people are important to you, or else they wouldn’t be in your wedding party. You don’t want them to feel like the closer they are to you in line, the more important they are to you. And another thing: Even if you line people up by height, the shortest ones may feel that they are least important. See how this can get sticky?
Do the height thing automatically only if you care about it for the pictures. But approach the “you’re important to me” thing with care as well — you don’t want any hurt feelings.
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Victoria P Delaney cmc
Very difficult to answer however I will try I have conducted thousands of weddings as a celebrant all beautiful all different,people of all shapes and sizes nationalities different colored skin etc, As it is most important for the Bride and Groom to have the closest person/friend/family, stand next to them for support it is important to choose that person to stand next to you and then take the line up from there it can be difficult if that person is middle height but you can always ask a taller person (BM) to wear flat shoes and the shorter ones to wear heels.!! you can match the height of the groomsmen with the maids directly across from them or if using a stair way stagger them down the stairs, unless you have really different sized people nobody really notices and you can always rearrange them for the photos,Well hope that was helpful.Have a great Wedding and a wonderful life together. Your Wedding is the start of it so enjoy it try not to stress !! ask for help delegate jobs however small people love to helpyou.
Victoria P Delaney
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