MOH Planning Simultaneous Wedding
Question: My fiancé and I have had a long engagement, during which my maid of honour also became engaged. This morning, she called me to ask me to be her maid of honour and to tell me they'd picked a date -- the weekend before my wedding! Though I'm annoyed, I realise I technically can’t do anything about her date, but I also don't think I have time to be maid of honour in a wedding that's seven days before mine. What should I do?
Answer: by The Knot
You’re right that you can’t do anything about the date, and even though it’s bridezilla behaviour on her part, you deserve a Miss Congeniality award for dealing with it so diplomatically. As for her offer, be honest. Say you’re concerned that you won’t be able to focus on her wedding as much as she might want and ask how much she truly needs you to contribute. You might find out that it’s completely doable, especially because it sounds like she’s planning a brief engagement. But if not, tell her that you appreciate the contributions she’s made to your wedding and don’t want to let her down by not pulling your weight at hers. Perhaps you can be a bridesmaid instead of the maid of honour, or at least, a very helpful guest. Hopefully she’ll understand; after all, she’s dealing with planning stress right now too.
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