Guests & the bridal party

I see so many negative posts and people having trouble with their bridal party that I thought it would be nice to have a happy fluffy post where everyone can share why they chose their bridal party

Here’s mine:

• MOH – I first got to know my MOH in year 10 science in 2003 – I didn’t have any friends in my class and her and a friend called me over. We had been going to the same school and were aware of each other since 2001, year 8. We have been through many ups and downs, fights as teenagers, double dates and dramas. However as adults, we get along much better! We have travelled together for 3 weeks, sometimes sharing a bed, all without killing each other. She loves my FH and he was actually the one who suggested her for MOH. She is supportive, has ideas, enthusiastic about EVERYTING “Flowers? Yep, let’s go look. ANOTHER expo? Of course! I would love to look at another 7,000 options of BM dresses. Material swatches? Bring it on!” She has been to every dress shop, reception hall look through, ceremony location idea. She has received approximately 3 million emails from me regarding the wedding – and we are still 11 months away. What an amazing girl!
• Bridesmaid 2 – I heard this saying once “Chance made us sisters, choice made us friends”. My little sister and I used to tear each others throats out, we are now extremely close. She is so enthusiastic about photos I send her with dresses, flowers etc and is always hands on with making invites, labelling envelopes etc. We chat on facebook about stupid things and she gets me when Mum and Dad are brought into the equation
• Bridesmaid 3 – TAFE 2005, I saw the most beautiful girl and thought she was probably a bitch because she was so beautiful. Turns out her external beauty was a reflection of her internal beauty, and I found a solid friend of the soul, who I could talk to about ANYTHING. As she got married last year, I got to have a “trial run” for my wedding day, and now have someone to bounce my wedding ideas off. Always available for a chat when I need her
• Bridesmaid 4 – FSIL. Another example of intimidating external beauty. She was the first person I told about our engagement. She is extremely enthusiastic and sends me several messages a week with photos of shoes, dresses, flowers, centrepieces etc. 

I am so blessed to have 4 such ladies in my life. They are truly amazing, all there when I need them and all so enthusiastic about EVERYTHING. 

I have started preparing their gifts for them, and man are these women going to get spoilt!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your turn!

MOH – she is my oldest sister and one of my closest friends. She helped raise me and has always said she had more of a soft spot for me than for my other sister. I chose her because I couldn’t imagine anything else, we lived together, partied together, we used to do everything together, it was natural choice.

Bridesmaid 1 – Is my little brothers g/f. They have been together for 6 years and she is like the little sister I always wanted, one of my closest friends and has supported me through so much! She had never been asked to be in a bridal party before and was so excited when I asked her, she couldn’t believe I had actually thoguht of her

BM 2 – Is my 12 year old niece, she is my miniature all over, even though i am not her mother, people often mistake me for her mother because she looks like me, talks like me and acts like me. I adore her so much, and felt she was well to old to be a flower girl but she had to be included. People are often surprised that I am having a 12 year old in my BP but I want her there, she wants to wear the same dress as her Mum, no big deal.

Does no one else have any wonderful friends to brag of? I find this forum is often a place to vent, stress and worry, so thought a nice post would be good to get some minds off the negative for a bit!

Agreed DankiStar, positive posts are a nice change to the stressed ones!

MOH- 12 years ago we met in high school, and bonded over a maths teacher we both disliked Inseperable, she’s now my best friend and the most beautiful person I know. Ours is one of those rare friendships where we don’t need to verbally speak to communicate and can read each others thoughts (even when she was far away in San Francisco!). We’re both extremely stubborn, but even through our girlie fights and tedious Arguments we both know we’ll always be there. I can’t imagine anyone else standing up there with me.

Bm1- we met through our partners 6 years ago, something I will always thank him for. She has the most wicked sense of humour, and isn’t afraid to tell it like it is (something that has got us into a little trouble over the years but I wouldn’t have it any other way!). When I asked her she burst into tears, and couldn’t believe I had asked her-how could I not! It’s so nice having her and her bf in our bridal party.

Bm2- my FH’s sister (and soon to be mine!). I was so intimidated by her at first, because she was the older sister and her and FH are super close (I always said they should have been twins). But that soon turned to admiration and a great friendship. She is amazingly creative and artistically talented, she even asked if she could design our invites – and did an amazing job! As someone who has two brothers, she completes my family

…so I’m very lucky! They’re even organising my ENTIRE hens night, to the point where I don’t even get to see what im wearing- they’ve organised it all! They are the most amazing girls, my eternal supporters and best friends

What lovely stories, its always nice to hear the reasons people chose their BP instead of negative post about BP problems. I havent officially asked them yet, but I chose my 3 BM’s simply because I have two younger sisters and FH has an older sister. We all get along well and I cant wait to start planning and dress shopping with them. FH has finalised his GM yet, but we arent getting married till June 2014 so he has plenty of time. FSIL has a daughter who will be my flower girl, she will be nearly 7, and two boys who most likely be the ring bearer (nearly 9) and possibly an usher or young GM (13).
 

Good Job DanikStar! Love the idea!
I dont have a MOH – as you can tell by most of my posts in Bother Brides… :/
On to the happy!
BM1 is my FH’s best friend of more than 10 years – we all lived together for a few years and we formed a great friendship with doesnt need my FH anymore (unfortunately there was a time out together that she came home with no pants…. we dont know where they went!) We worked odd hours so would sometime have the day off during the week to have chicken nuggets and wine. She is just a great person and really interested in the whole process which makes my life easier!
BM2 is my friend from 2004, she arrived in my maths class and i asked her to sit with me coz she was new. Little did i know the first proper boyfriend i had (2 years) who cheated on me all summer, it was actually with her! awkward! but we became inseparable travelling and doing the same work for the same buisness - she is also engaged to a great guy and getting married 8 months before me so we are sharing a bit of wedding chat.
BM3 is FH sister – we have had MEGA fights but it all stems from her loving her brother and i hoping by including her she realises that she means alot to me aswell. She might be a bit difficult one day, but she calls a spade a spade and its a good quality.
The story with the Grooms men is very entertaining.. but maybe FH should join so he can post that one!

I also don’t have a MOH, but more because I don’t want to choose between my best friend and my sister. I never had many friends in high school, so I cherish those I do have. My boyfriend is the same, and only has a couple close friends to consider, so we have both decided on two.
 
Ring Bearer – My son is currently 2.5 but will be 5 by the wedding, so he will look so handsomely cute walking down the aisle in his little tuxedo. I had considered having my son walk me down the aisle, but I think my father would be extremely hurt if I don’t ask him, so my son will walk down first.
 
Bridesmaid – my younger sister will be my bridesmaid, it has always been assumed. We were extremely close when I was younger, but unfortunately had a falling out and have only become friends again at the end of last year. until she moved back home I wasn’t considering her for the bridal party, but now I feel stuck. Sometimes we get along really well, and there are other times where we fight for days. Our relationship is constantly rocky, so I have no idea how it will be in the future.
 
Bridesman – my best friend is male. I had never considered him as a part of my bridal party until I was trying to pick another bridesmaid and honestly could not think of someone I would rather more. Then I heard of someone else having Birdesmen and I thought ‘why not?’. I want the most important people to be a part of my big day, and my best friend has been there for me for over eight years, thick and thin, has always been a shoulder to lean on and my support when I’ve collapsed.
 
Groomsman and Groomswoman – I feel less awkward having a Bridesmaid and Bridesman because my boyfriend will be copying my trend. He wishes to have his two best friends standing beside him, and they happen to be his high school buddy and ex-girlfriend. (for those who suddenly freaked out, they broke up 8 years ago, she’s now married and a mother, and a great person, so I’m not worried). Although, his relationship with his best friend hasn’t been great lately, so I suggested that if he decided not to ask him, my brother would love to stand in.

I adore this post, it’s so nice to read the lovely things people have to say about their bridal party.
I’ve decided also to not have a MOH, simply because I’m only have 2 maids, and don’t want either to be left out. I wanted three, as I have 3 super close girlfriends, and the lovely fiance wanted one (his best mate from childhood) we compromised on 2 each.
1st BM- Miss I: Was an obvious choice for me. Even though we’ve only been close for 3 years, I’ve known her for about 10. I used to be super close with her older sister & cousin, but we’ve grown apart and I realised that my BM and I have so much more in common. I went through a fairly rough patch a little while before meeting my now fiance, and she was my rock.
The night him and I met, she was sitting beside me. Him and her get along like siblings, they’re 3 weeks apart, and are completely themselves in front of each other. She’s the first person I call with any kind of news, and the one I wake up in the morning with texts from telling me about her random dreams. She was my number one supporter when I decided to move interstate to be with my boyfriend (now fiance) and we speak almost everyday.  She cried when I called her and told her we were engaged, and has been nothing less than ecstatic since. She’s gorgeous, trustworthy and a planning freak. My fiance said that it wuldn’t be right if she weren’t standing beside me on our wedding day.
 
BM 2- Miss J: Has actually never met my fiance! When we got together she lived in Canberra, we were in Melbourne, and then we moved to Darwin and she moved back to Melbourne! Everytime we’ve gone back for a visit, she’s been away for work, so their paths haven’t crossed as yet. We’ve already teed up a meeting in December though, but they always ask about each other, it’s like they know each other already!
She’s sweet, quiet and loves helping to look at venues or dresses. She’s logical, organised and intelligent. She’s the girl that we can go weeks and weeks without talking, and then send each other a joke or a picture of Channing Tatum and it’s like nothing has changed. She said “oh my god!”  more than anyone else I know, and I couldn’t help but laugh when those were the first words she said when I told her we were engaged.
 
My finace is having his best mate and his 16 year old sister, as there’s no-one else he would rather than the two of them. I think it’s adorable!

YES! Finally a post where I can tell everyone about my beautiful bridesmaids! 
My MOH is one of my closest friends who I met at orientation day at uni. We’ve sinced moved around the corner to each other (purely by coincidence lol) and see each other pretty much every day. She is so excited to be part of my wedding and will love every dress I try on!
My 1st bridesmaid is my best friend from prep! She lost out on MOH because she lives so far away
My 2nd bridesmaid is my future sister in law, who I am very close to. Neither of us have a sister so we’ve adopted each other! 

Love, love, love this post.
MOH: my only sister. We had a wonderful childhood, but would always have huge fights, like most sisters. As adults we are extremely close and and we don’t even need to speak to know what the other is thinking. She is always my first pick for board games or trivia, she just gets me.
Bridesmaid: my best friend. We met in 2004 when I was 19 through a mutual friend. She moved to America about a year after we met and when she moved back, it wasn’t long before I moved to Perth. We have lived in different cities longer than we have ever lived in the same town, but has remained the closest friend that I have ever had and can’t imagine life without her.
Bridesman: My only brother. My family is extremely close and my brother and I have always got along well. He would come to me when he would fight with our sister or ask for help with his school assignments. I was 7 when he was born so have always been his mini mum. I didn’t want to discount him from the bridal party just because he is a male. He will walk my mum down the aisle after the flowergirls.
Flowergirls: will be 3 and 4 years old. They are the daughters of my bridesmaid and FH groomsman.
Groomsmen: FH could not pick a best man because each friend has played a specific role in his life at different times. so he is having 4 Best MEN. His brother, his old flat mate and 2 friends from school. The crew All live in different cities but are all the same when we get together atChristmas. He had to have all of them. I didn’t want to pick a 4th attendant just to make up numbers so it looks like we are breaking all the rules.