Bothered brides

Ok so my fiance and I only want a smallish wedding max 100 guests but the problem
is I have a large family.. I don’t know half of my baby nephews and niecesor have only met them once
and have only said as much as “hello” to some of the family members also.. BUT
if I don’t invite them the other family would get upset like if I invited my aunt
but not her adult child who I rarely talk to aor if I invite only some of the kids
the others might be angry why their kids weren’t invited but I do want some of the kids
their but not others… Also with some of the cousins that I might want to invite I haven’t spoken to their
husbands since I was a little girl so I wouldn’t honestly want them their. Ahh what to do =/

Ok the most obvious answer is that it’s your day and you can invite who you want! Having said that I am in a similar boat and I totally understand that you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don’t come from a big family but I do have plenty of people I HAVE to invite even though I don’t know them let alone their partners.

This is how we’re managing it – deciding who to invite from our friendship circle is easy so we’re doing it ourselves but we’ve left it to our parents to do all the culling to help us keep it under our limit which is 110. I find it also helps manage the politics if your parents are involved to keep a lid on things. 

Can I also sugest hiring a venue that can only hold a small number so your hands are tied Good luck!

We were in a similar boat, so we set the limit to 50 guests and didn’t invite any family except for our immediate family and grandparents.  The guest list is 50% family and the other half friends.  It worked out fine and everyone has been understanding and will celebrate with us in their own way.

Good luck.

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I am in a similar ituation, I have a huge family and I have decidd to only invite selected cousins.  I know that it is PC but I don’t care I have taken to view that if it matterd to me enought that I would be upset that they were offended that they wern’t invited then they would have already been on the list.  As they are not I really don’t care if they get upset about it.  The other thing that I have done is I have planned to have our wedding on a tuesday in the southern highlands when all of my family are in melbourne so it will also be really inconvenient for them to attend.

Good Luck I hope you work it out

I have a simular problem, I grew up with all my cousins and I have a massive family.  I have just finished my guest list although I still feel for those cousins who are not on there.  I have invited all family to our wedding and then only 2 cousins out of each family to the reception.  I snuck in 2 other cousins only because 1 is singing at the wedding and the other his daughter is in our briday party! 

It is an extremely difficult decision to make although don’t let ANYONE tell you “you have to invite them”, you could also just invite cousins and not partners and only those over 16 or 18. 

Hope this helps a little but you have to but a stop to it somewhere and if you have it that it was only over 18’s well people will have to understand!