Wedding stories

I was at a wedding last weekend and the best man described the bride as just another one in a long line of conquests. How do I make sure our best man doesn’t say that about me?

I would pass that task onto your future husband. He should make it clear to his best man that comments like that will not be received well. But then again are his friends like that?

Give him a few drinks and threaten him with bodily harm, lol. No only joking.

Get all speeches written on paper and pre approve them? Maybe you could just give him some guidelines and check his speech out at teh rehersal or soemthing.

We are not havong speeches, peple always get bored and there is no way i am giving any one in my family a microphone after a few drinks, or even with out drinks for that matter.

We will make a speech each thanking every one but that is it, no worries about what any one will say.

I went to a wedding where the best man (who is going to be my FH’s Best Man, its his twin brother) said, “thanks for coming out. Stefanos and Danielle, you are awesome, this day was awesome, and everyone is just awesome. yeah”

and that was it.

he will be getting stern talking to!

I agree with Bella, Crazy Sarah, let your FH know whats expected of the Best man’s speech.

You know, Lonni might have a point..!  Well, only kidding.  It’s a really tough one.  He might think it’s funny to throw a couple of embarassing stories in, so it has to be made abundantly clear what is not acceptable.  Off topic a bit; I can remember at my 21st, two of my best friends got up and humiliated me by telling everyone there (elderly aunts and gparents included) everything drunk and stupid that I had ever done.  It was horrendous – and on video!  I haven’t watched it, and it was almost 10 years ago.  They really ruined my night.  Having said that, I wasn’t the one that was made to look bad – they were, for being such disloyal friends.  I almost ended the friendship with one of them over it all and the relationship has never been the same.

As Bella says, make sure your fiance is clear with the best man exactly what can and cannot be mentioned.

think carefully about who your best man is and have the speeches after the entrees so you minimise the risk of too much booze being consumed prior to speaking.

give a 2 minute time limit to speak. 2 minutes can fly when you’re the speaker but can be an eternity if you’re listening to an inappropriate speech, whether the best man is drunk or not.

give him strict guidelines as to what is and isn’t considered acceptable to include in the speech, ie: it’s ok to speak about how he met you and his wishes for you both in the future. it’s not ok for him to talk about past girlfriends, allude to anything remotely sexual, discuss what happened on the bucks night, or make specific reference to any difficult personal problems you’ve both had during your relationship.

and choose someone who won’t end their sentences with prepositions.

I think that everyone has answered this quite well and I don’t have much else to add.

The only thing is that I believe speeches can be so lovely and moving it should be a surprise, so don’t read it beforehand. Just give them an understanding of what you want or don’t want and as long as you pick the right person(s) they won’t disrespect you anyway.

I am an editor and videographer at WeddingMovies and quite often when I am editing, I get so involved I will have emotional outbursts of tears and laughter just from enjoying what moments people share. You can enjoy those moments over and over when you watch the video.

So choose who does speeches wisely and enjoy your day!

Good Luck