Ceremony & reception details

So FH has emphatically “banned” speeches at our wedding, he is bending a little on my Dad saying a few words as long as he keeps it short (Dad is the closest thing we have to an MC) and I’ve convinced him it’s bad manners not to say anything ourselves at our own wedding, & taht we have to at least thank everyone for coming. So he’s come around to that idea, but his main issue is my sister taking the mic, she is 5 years older than me and we have a difficult relationship. We don’t have a bridal party so no need for MOH or best man speeches, but my mum is still upset my sister isn’t a BM and my sister definitely likes being centre stage and I KNOW she will want to talk. Only thing is she has a tendency to hassle me or embarass me in front of crowds & say inappropriate things to get a laugh…it seems to be the only way we communicate and I know FH doesn’t like it, which for good reason is mostly to protect me. I know if I tell her she can’t speak this will only make her want to even more. And if we say keep it clean and short she is likely to say “I was told I couldn’t speak…but” you get my drift. FH tells me he will tell her himself that she cannot have the stage, but that doesn’t bode well for their future relationship, which I’d like to improve. She is also getting married next year and I am her only BM so will prob have to make a speech. Tricky, tricky…don’t know what to do! I have to consider FH as so far this wedding is more about me and my family than him, and he hasn’t out his foot down much but stiil????

I think it is fine to have only 2 speeches – your father and you/FH.  Our MC made an announcement at the beginning of the evening about who was going to be making a speech.  He asked the guests to respect our wishes and not attempt to make a speech if their name had not be mentioned.