Ceremony & reception details

Is anyone else almost ripping their hair out? I want a seating plan because the LAST thing I want is someone searching for the very last seat and not being able to find it, but I’m struggling to seat people with others who I don’t think will offend each other or make anyone want to leave early. My main concerns are guests with BO issues, foul language, and one who may or may not be out of jail by the time we get married. Then along with that there are guests who I already know can’t stand each other, and I am just quietly a little concerned about homophobic behaviour as my cousin and his partner are homosexual, as is one of my best friends.

WHY CAN’T WE ALL JUST BE HAPPY AND GET ALONG!???

That’s my rant =) Anyone else struggling? Or have any tips for those of us who are?

What a nightmare! We only had family and very close friends so seating wasn’t an issue for us.

Can you stick all the people with similar social problems together (not talking about the homosexuals by the way)? Though I would expect adults would know to watch their language at a wedding (nothing you can do about the BO though without embarrassing everyone involved).

As for your gay cousin well seat them with family and the other gay couple seat them where ever you like. I really don’t think anyone is going to say anything at a wedding! And if you are particularly concerned about certain homophobes then either seat them far away or talk to them before hand and say that you understand that they are uncomfortable with homosexuality but you support the lifestyle choices of your family and friends and that there will be gay couples in attendance. Let them know that you will understand if they cannot make it. That way their behaviour is on them.

The criminal- well I think you just seat them where ever you like. It is no ones business and technically the person has paid for their crime (hence the jail time). If people cannot get over that then that is their problem. Of course  I would be mindful of where to seat them so as not to break any parole conditions (such as not near kids if that was their offence etc). The person may not be allowed to even come if a parole condition is not entering establishments where alcohol is served. 

Good luck and people will only be sitting during the food and speeches the rest of the time they will mingle and be dancing- or outside smoking! 

Hi Mollie Rose

I have a very similar problem. My parents havent spoken in 20 years and hate each other. As do both sides of my family.

Instead of round tables I am opting for 3 long rectangular tables seating 20 each.

That way I can put the 2 opposing families on each side of the room with a mutual/buffer/switzerland peace keeping table in the middle.

At the end of the day its yours and your grooms day. No one elses. If they cant get along, they can get out