Engagement

im not engaged yet but i was wondering did any of you point out rings to your man to then find that he listened and you now have the ring of ur dreams or did he pick the worst possible one

Unfortunately my fiance didn’t pick up on the subtle hints – if I had my time over I would have been a little more direct and emailed him pictures of ring styles I really love practically as soon as we had discussed we were both ready for marriage and that he was ‘the one’.

I had left a magazine page lying around but I guess the guys don’t always realise that’s what’s going on.

My proposal was a complete and utter surprise, however by sheer fluke he wound up at the exact same manufacturing jewelers I’d scoped out with my ex.  The ring he proposed with was my second favourite at the store – and I’m actually glad he didn’t pick the first choice.   Fortunately I’d given him ‘I prefer sapphires to diamonds’, but given that was ALL he had to work on, got it perfect – not bad for a proposal four and a half months into the relationship!!   And yes, it’s a long engagement!!

Another friend proposed to his fiance with a placeholder eternity-band style ring, and they got the e-ring made.  She’s chosen to use the place holder ring as her wedding band, so I’d say he did well, too! 

I had a very definite idea about what ring I thought I would like before I got engaged and my HTB had a completely different view of what he liked. We picked the ring together but once we started looking at rings I fell in love with the same style as my HTB and I absolutely love my ring. I couldn’t imagine wearing anything else now!

I recently became engaged after 6 years of dating, I think it’s important to make clear your personal likes and dislikes. Let you fiance learn your taste and style and incorporate that in to your ring. Before my fiance found the ring he showed me one he liked in a magazine, exact opposite of my taste! I nudged him into the right direction and now I am wearing the most beautiful ring I have ever seen.
Also before I was engaged I use to think about the ring size, quality and colour but honeslty none of that matters to me anymore. I’m so happy just to be engaged to the love of my life even if my ring was plastic it would make no difference. Don’t get too worried about it. In the end it’s your relationship thats important.

When we started to discuss it, mum took me out to look at rings, and I found the perfect one, so I took the boy one day to show him, so at least he had an idea of what I wanted, and then a few weeks later, we thought it was sold, so we went looking for other ones, however he had already bought the one I wanted. I need to get it resized though, because the “O” size was perfect the first time I tried it on, but for some reason it’s really loose now, and it’s only been like a month since I originally tried it on

mine actually pointed some out to me and asked me what i liked. the day before he proposed he pointed out the one he had purchased in the shop window. best thing to do is throw subtle hints. i used to look through the mags and point to ones i liked saying things like – look at this hun, isnt it pretty.

fortunatly my FH has very similar taste to me so i was ok. if u dont think he will pick one you like, show him ones you do. better to throw a not-so-subtle hint than hurt his feelins later on. Good luck!

The whole process can be quite frustrating if you both want to have a say…..my FH got really confused as to why i liked some styles on some rings, but not on others (ie – I’m not a fan of channel set diamonds in general, but on some rings they look lovely).  We compromised.  We went out together and I showed him 4 rings that i liked.  He then got the final say….worked out well because he picked my favourite one!!

If your dicussing long term and marriage I think its a safe bet to pick your ring and shove it in his face…  I was sitting on a qantas jet one day and picked up the magazine and flipped through it.  FELL IN LOVE with the ring, so I did some research with the jewelers about costs depending on band metal and diamond quality and size.  The ring was available for all possible budgets.  SO one night I just said to him, " if you ever plan on proposing, this is my dream ring, this is it, right here (pointed at the magazine page), and you can get it at these locations and you can get it from these prices, my preference is Platinum, my ring size is 53."  I then gave him the diamond info card that the jewelers gave me.  And he laughed.

When he proposed, he didn’t really say anything, he just gave me the box and smiled and when I opened the box and saw the ring and said yes.  He got me exactly what I wanted.

I mean, you have to wear it for the rest of your life so you have a right to tell him what you want.

He proposed to me but said he was not sure if he had picked out the correct ring and because it was going to take over a month till it was re-sized and he wanted to propose on our 1 yr ann he took me to the jewellers and showed me and he was right.

The way he figured it out was he took in all of my old rings and i had an engagement ring from a previous relationship and the lady at the jewellery figured out my style.