Bothered brides

Ever started on your seating plan and you seem to find a place for everyone so effortlessly THEN your almost finished and those last few people just don’t fit?!?!?

Yep I’m there right now….I was sweet until I found 2 neighbours last on the list who don’t really fit anywhere I only have children to sit them with and now I’ve had to undo 2 other tables to fit them somewhere suitable. I have exactly 30 people to fit onto 3 tables but no matter how many times I switch and swap it just won’t suit.

I have a loud uncle who needs to sit with tolerant people, 3 couples with small children and prams and a few young couples and a few old couples Arrggggg!!!!!

Anyone care to share their frustration?

oh miss_ash i am there with you! Single people, people who don’t talk to each other (over something that happened 3 years ago that no one can remember!), people who i want together cause i know they’ll have fun.. it’s dementing, that’s for sure!

I’ve tried the best i can, but unfortunatley there are a couple of friends who just don’t fit on the tables with others they know. In this case i’ve made sure their tables are close together….

I saw this idea in a bridal mag somewhere and it was just a great idea, so I will be keeping it in mind! I will be getting paper plates, one for each table and witing everyones names on postit notes. That way if I need to change things around, its really easy. I can also write my own little notes on them (E.g. DO NOT PLACE NEAR FMIL!!)

Im going through the same thing miss_ash.. I have alot of divorced partners in my family (not the most romantic thing to see at a wedding lol) and cant seem to get them in the right place its soooo frustrating but i really like Kitteh’s idea, im going to give it ago.. thanks Kitteh i hope it all works out and you have a wonderful wedding.. CONGRATS )))  

Is adding a fourth table out of the question. That way you could have 2 tables of 7 and 2 tables of 8. Just an idea. Why do you have to do a table arrangement at all. How about having all your place cards on a table and people placing where they want to sit. Again just another idea. I wouldn’t stress too much about people not fitting in where you place them. The point of a Wedding is for people to mingle, don’t stress about the loud uncle. At the end of the day people are only at their table to eat their meal, then they are up dancing and mingling. Good Luck!

very true!

I ended up splitting my work friends and my melbourne friends half and half… that way people have people they know around them, and they’re meeting new people too….

My Solution: hand it over to mum

I gave my list to mum and she worked some magic and its perfect!! I dont know how she did it but what I couldnt accomplish in 4 days she did in 3 hrs.

Seating plans are very tricky! I agree with Nik83, be flexible with the number of tables and the number of seats per table. This is the only way we were able to do it.

We had our wedding in August and one big peice of advice I would give is let your parents and future parents-in-law run their eye over it, just to see if they pick up anything you didn’t. I don’t mean to scare anyone, but after the wedding my parents-in-law’s family has had a massive falling out due to someone not being happy where they were seated. My MIL’s father (who ran out on the family years ago and has been on shaky terms with everyone since) was not happy being sat with strangers (some of my family) rather than with my MIL, so after the wedding he decided that he’s never going to come to another family function ever again. Aparently he’s really picky and has to have everything go his way, I had no idea he had that kind of personality (neither myself nor my husband really know him that well) and if we had just double checked with my MIL we could have saved a big family falling out.

But he’s not really a nice person, no great loss for me, I just feel bad for my MIL who now doesn’t speak to her father.

P.S. On the day you will be so happy, time will just fly by and you won’t really notice where ppl are sitting. If someone has an issue then that’s their problem, you’ve tried your best to keep people happy and if they don’t like it just ignore them. If they’re small minded enough to make an issue about seating on your wedding day then they’re not worth your time.