Bothered brides

I chose my Bridesmaids in Dec last year and we have now postponed our wedding to August 2013.
One of my bridesmaids has just turned into a horrible person. She is mean to all of our friends and generally not being nice. 
Except for when it comes to the wedding… then things are sweet as pie. 
But i dont think she deserves to be up there anymore and it makes me sad.. But what can i do.

Hey Danipatch
Maybe have a chat to her, just ask her if she is ok cos she seems to be acting different to usual. Things may be going bad for her at home or something which is changing how she deals with other people. 
If you think you’re going to drop her from the party, beware that this may mean the end of the friendship. Good luck!
 
xx

Hi Dani,
Dankistar is right, I think you need to take your friend aside and tal to her about non wedding related things, invite her out for a coffee, don’t mention anything about the wedding and just ask her if all is well with her. Please don’t kick your friend out of the wedding without talking to her, if she brings up the wedding, just say something like ‘We have plenty of time to plan that’ or ‘We haven’t even thought that far ahead’ and change the subject back to her, ask her how life is, how her job/school is, her partner/bf/family etc. 
You have over 12 months to your wedding, I know you had to postpone it, so maybe put your wedding plans on hold for the moment and work on your friendship with your bridesmaid, it sounds to me like she needs a friend right now

I had the same sort of dilemma, one of my bridesmaids just disagreed with the other 2 and kept telling me I had to make decisions not them, as my daughter was one of the bridesmaids I gave her the job of chosing their dresses. My friend couldnt accept this and was sending me nasty texts and being horrible about everything. In the end I rang her told her nicely that weve decided that we would only have family in the wedding party and I was sorry but I didnt want her anymore. Shes been fairly off since then and Ive decided I cant put up with her attitude anymore so Im not even inviting her to the wedding. I dont feel guilty about it, the day is about my partner and I. Its a hard choice to make but if shes causing you stress with her attitude now and you try to sort it out, more than likely she will get very defensive with you, at the end of the day its your wedding and you can change things to whatever you want when you want. Good luck and be strong its all about you not her

I have been having a similar situation since I’ve asked my friend to be a bridesmaid she has change completely.  She says she’ll be there to go dress hunting but makes up excuses and hasn’t co m e once. I haven’t been getting replies from text messages or phone calls and i have no idea what to do? Any advice?