Bothered brides

It was meant to be my year. I had my wedding date set for over a year now and the whole family knew, then all of a sudden another family member was having there wedding day on my wedding day. So as you can imagine heart attack.
So my mother had to make a few calls adn next thing the other family member has changed there date to 9th Feb and ours is on the 16th Feb.
Is it bad that i feel my special time is kinda destroyed

Hi Megan
That sucks, but you now have a choice. You can let this get to you and hang over your head for the whole process, or you can decide it doesn’t matter, and have an awesome wedding just like you planned! Even though they are only a week apart, you can still both have amazing days. 

Hi Megan, I can understand the hurt and frustration you’d be feeling, but I agree with DankiStar, don’t let it ruin your day. Your wedding is one of the most special days in your life, and it will still be special. Don’t let this other wedding put you down or ruin your plans. Your wedding day is about you, not about her.

hey i feel you completely!!!! mine isnt anywhere near as bad as that. We set our date months and month ago for april next year and i get a text msg last week saying that a close close family friend is having hers 2 weeks before me…. which means travelling interstate also, so not sure where the money or the time off work will come from yet. 
im very very happy for her setting a date…..but feel the frustrations that ppl couldnt just let there be that time for someone else.
But at the end of it i did what dankistar and jaimee wrote…. moved on. at the end its her wedding too and maybe there were circumstances that couldnt be helped. AAAAANND there are bigger things to worry about for my own wedding. you cant let other ppls choices get you down. this will always be your and your partners day. you just have to remember that all that matters on the day is when you start down the aisle and you see your love. i promise you at that moment no one else will matter and you wont matter you had your other family memebers wedding before hand.
But its not bad that you feel this way at all. its totally natural. growing up we are all set to have OUR day….. its OUR time to have it about us and no one else…but sometimes there are ppl that just dont see that the same way.

I think the traveling is a pain- your right why would u want to spend the weekend before your wedding at someone else’s. It’s inconvenient and inconsiderate. You won’t be alone, think about all the people invited to both. 
But let’s face it. Your sharing your year, month and fortnight. 
Perhaps now you can share the planning experience with your family friend? 
I think your lucky they changed it- or there isn’t other weddings to attend that people know. It’s always going to be the case… People just sometimes have other things to do, birthdays babies what ever. I think they’ve changed it to fit in with your wedding and that’s a great outcome.
 
Would you feel the same if it was the week after, is it just that it’s before?

I am sorry tis happened, but it is not your ‘year’ you get one day, it sucks that she chose to do it so close to yours but she is entitled to that weekend, just as she entitled to do it on any of the other 364 days of the year. Put yourself in her shoes, she’s ecstatic that she’s engaged to the love of her life and eager to start planning and then she gets a phone call telling her she has to change her plans, which she graciously did.
Your special time has not been destroyed, you sound bridezillaish by saying that, you don’t get a whole year set aside for your PPD, life moves on, your friends and family don’t have to revolve everything they do around your wedding day, it’s sucks but then, that’s life.

I can understand your angst. It is dissappointing, but you need to put it aside and decide not to let it wreck your day. If you’ve been planning for a year I imagine you’ve got a wedding with all the trimmings planned. Your guests will have a great time. Maybe try to get invites etc out ASAP, so that guests lock it in early. Also book in hen’s night and shower tea with date minders, so that you don’t miss out. 
 
I was bridesmaid at weddings a week apart years ago and the long-planned wedding went without a hitch, whereas the other was a bit average. Have a bit of a rant, shed a few tears and then put it behind you and enjoy your day. Plus some credit needs to go to your mum and the other couple for moving their date – they are not out to get you, they probably just got caught up in the moment.
 
Our date was decided by when my nephew starts grade 1, as he is page boy, but we’ve ended up with Australia Day, meaning we’ll always have the day together as it is a public holiday. Not our ideal date, but we are making the best of it. 

I found out the day after my engagement that my oldest brother (who was only 36) was dying. Then he actually did die, 3 months later.
I am planning my wedding amongst the grief of losing my brother, and my mum always talks about his death during all wedding occasions. So I kind of understand how it feels to have things not be about ‘you’.
But it will still be your day. Sometimes things happen that aren’t the ideal scenario. I always say to myself “What is the worst thing that could happen?” and no matter what, it always comes down to as long as we end up husband and wife, nothing else matters.
Maybe try to remember that even though they were inconsiderate, it is still a wedding for them too, so try and celebrate their engagement, and don’t think so negatively toward their wedding day. Just concentrate on yours, enjoy the process and ignore everything else. The people that really matter will show up to yours, and if they don’t, well hey! You save money