Planning & etiquette

I think we’ve got the invites right but He or She first???

AppleTree & AppleTree (he or she first??? My first initial is D & his is M)

Also – envelopes – what is the appropriate way to address them?  so far I’m going with…

Mr & Mrs D Bloggs (when it is just husband and wife)

Mr & Mrs D Bloggs and Family (when there are also other family members who are invited)

Ms M Mango & Mr G Kiwi (when there is an unmarried couple or when she has not changed her name) – is it acceptable to place the person whom you are ‘friends’ with first and their partner next rather than male first?

Thanks, AppleTree

Traditionally the brides name goes first.

The rule of thumb for the envelopes is that everyone who is invited should be named. This is maily due to the varied interpretation of “and family”.  To some people it is just the kids, to others it means the kids and their boyfriends/girlfriends and to other it can mean the kids and grandma who lives with us.

For example on our invites we put

Mr & Mrs Simth

Master Jason and Miss Maggie Smith

Also kids 18+ should be sent their own invitation especially if they live outside of the parental home.

Traditionally on an unmarried couples invite who live together the female should come first, same with a married couple with different last names and children should be listed oldest to youngest. if they do not live together i owuld address it to the “friend” first.

It is alos proper etiquette to find out the names of any significant others and list that on the envelope/invite rather than “and guest”.

Hope this helps.

Thanks j_jane – I really appreciate the advice.

We’re going to avoid any form of confusion by listing all on the invite.. eg. parents and children and going for something a little shorter on the envelope as it will be just too many.

George, Nina, Sarah, Linda, Beau and Adrienne (for invite)

Mr & Mrs G Bloggs and family (for envelope)

What do you think?