Guests & the bridal party

I was recently invited to a wedding of a friend of mine and she is asking for the guests to pay $120 each to attend! Am I the only one who thinks this is ridiculous? I know she is planning a massive wedding with a huge reception and the flashest place in town. I just think that if you can’t afford a huge wedding then don’t have one, don’t ask your guests to pay! Any other opinions, or am I just being silly?

I’ve been to two weddings where guests were asked to pay – but these were only $50 each….which I like to thing is the standard amount that you give to a wishing well anyway.

$120 though!  I think that’s nuts….and a bit rude. If you want guests to pay to come to your wedding, choose an option that is affordable for people of most standings.  I don’t know many singles that have $120 to spend just to attend the wedding, not to mention outfits, travel etc.  And I certainly don’t know many couples who’d pay $240.

$50 is probably a more reasonable amount, but I just can’t get over the idea of it being rude to ask for guests to pay to attend your wedding. Now don’t get me wrong, a wishing well IMHO it completely different. I thought a wishing well was to give the happy couple a bit of extra $$ to start their life together or help fund a honeymoon, not pay for the wedding.

In addition to asking us to pay $120 to attend her wedding she has also included details of several wedding registers for us to buy gifts off! This would maybe be ok if Bride to Be was of upper class society, but trust me she’s not. Her and FH are just average income earners and no better or different to you and me.

Personally I’ll love to have a huge wedding with all the bells and whistles but FH and I simply can’t afford it and there is no way I would expect people to pay. Again, maybe I’m just being seflish and don’t really want to part with my hard earned money.

what the?

I do know of one wedding where the guests were instructed not to bring gifts but were asked to pay for their drinks instead.

Yeah…i think they’re being unrealistic and are going to end up with a few peole not bothering to come OR buy a gift.  I know I wouldn’t be attending if I was in your shoes.

i understand where they maybe coming from but thats way to much money my sister in-law gets married this month an is doing something similar as her an her fh hav been together 4 awhile an hav EVERYTHING so instead of presents/ wishing well theyve askd guests 4 $60 a head towards meal but theyre payin 4 all drinks etc which i understand in her case as shes payin 4 everything 4 her 4 bridesmaids an flower girl except their shoes an half of the bridesmaids dress. ive had friends do similar all around the $50 mark an i think most people find this an acceptable sort of price. im with u on the if u cant afford it dont go there

???? I have been to many weddings and I have never been asked to pay for anything. I think if they want you as a guest at there wedding that they should pay and if they cant afford it they should cut there wedding down. I would be embrassed to ask people to pay for my wedding especially those who travel from overseas to attend that would already cost them enough… I dont think i would attend if that was the case.

we are doing the same however ours is $55 per head and we are asking guests to do this in lieu of gifts.

is she on drugs? I think that is incredibly rude. My friend suggested this for her wedding for guests to pay for their meals instead of a gift and I was horrified. This is a big no no in my books

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with getting guests to pay for their meal. My folks did that when they got married, and if we weren’t eloping I would be doing the same thing.

I do think there’s something wrong with having the wedding at the flashest place in town and making people pay $120 per head to attend. And there is DEFINITELY something wrong with making people pay $120 per head to attend AND asking for gifts as well.

Like Fizz says, if you can’t afford it then don’t have a massive wedding. I realise that some people absolutely have to invite every man and his dog to their weddings to avoid upsetting people, but I have seen some very classy, large weddings done on a shoestring, and no one had to pay for their meals.