Planning & etiquette

Hi,

I wondering what kind of etiquette applies to Facebook. My wedding is coming up but I do not want photos of it posted on the web unless it is by myself or the groom.

Is it polite for me to get my MC to inform all the guests that I request that no photos of my wedding get posted on Facebook or is this impolite?

Any thoughts on how I can do this without offending my younger guests that seem to post everything on Facebook??

Thanks

Kitty

Sorry but you can’t tell people what they can or can’t post on facebook. Once they are posted on facebook you can however ask facebook to pull them as you didn’t give permission for your image to be on there but personally I think you will look like a bit of an a$$ if you do this.

Be prepared for people to talk (and laugh) about you if you tell them they can’t take photos or post them on facebook. And be prepared if you ask facebook to pull them that other people do the same to the images you post of your wedding.

I don’t really see what the issue is about people posting photos so long as they aren’t inappropriate? I would be grateful that I could see all of the photos taken and be able to request a disk or copies of any photos that I like.

It’s a bit silly to say that someone can’t post a photo of themselves or a family photo at your wedding on facebook as well.

What is the issue with people posting photos on facebook? Why do you want to pre-approve them? I was really happy when my friends posted photos because we did not have any until we got the professional photos. I agree with the other ladies – you cannot tell other people what to post on facebook.

What, do you have a media deal with New Idea that you can’t have your photos shown anywhere?

What, do you have a media deal with New Idea that you can’t have your photos shown anywhere?

Thanks for all the unhelpful advice ladies.

I am not a very confident person and I just don’t want pictures of my special day on the internet. Not everyone enjoys using facebook to put their lives out there for others to see. I just want to treasure my memories and not have my life spashed out on the internet.

I am an introverted personality which means that things like facebook really don’t interest me. However reading your responses I wonder why people think that it is their right to be able to post things, I am not being vain, I dont care if people take unflattering photos of me. I just want my wedding photos to not be put on the internet unless I do so myself, I also wonder why this seems to be met with such negativity and sarcastic comments.

Kind Regards

Kitty

I would suggets you have a very small intimate wedding with just a few guests then if you are an introverted person and really dislike photos and images shared on the media. Have you read your photography contract well because I bet it includes a line about using images for promotion (blogs, websites, display books/images). You might want to check that out if it such a concern.

As I said in my original post you can ask facebook to take them down.

But all credit to the other posters you original post did not say you didn’t want them posted because of a particular reason. The way it read sounded like you wanted to be the only one to splash them all over facebook and that no one could do it before you! You asked us if it was impolite and people gave you a response to that.

Basically technology is part of the everyday now and whilst you choose not to partake you can not stop other people. You are in my honest opinion being a little but judgy of users of technology. Basically your guests will be excited about your wedding and will want to share that. Take it as a compliment.

Sorry you feel that the comments have been unhelpful.  I agree with j_jaye, you did not indicate why you did not photos posted on facebook.  It is difficult to give advice without that sort of information.  You can get your MC to request that people do not post of you or FH on facebook but you cannot guarantee they will not.  If you explain the reasons then people might be more considerate of your request.  You know your guests better than we do so you should have a better idea of whether they will be offended or not.