Guests & the bridal party

I’m not keen on children coming to my wedding after my nephew shrieking all thru my dad’s ceremony and then needing to be rocked to sleep for the entire reception (12 months).

trouble is, i have a stepbrother who will be 10, a stepnephew who will be 15 and two nephews who will be 7 and 5, my fiance has two nephews who will be 9 and 7. plus  my two godchildren and multiple friend’s kids.

what should we do? i don’t know how my dad and stepmum will react to my stepbrother not being invited? i can understand breastfed babies and or babies under 6 months will need to come as they can’t usually be separated for so long.

i think it would just be easier to have a flat – no children rule with the above exception of little bubs.

what are you doing?

We have a no children rule and the only people who cause a drama are family, of course

We had already planned to let people bring their new babies if they asked as my neice and FH’s nephew are 6 months and 7 months, but we didn’t let them know before hand….so when their parents complained we appeared really generous…plus no one else expected to bring kids becasue we addressed it up front

Also – while you’re stepbrother may be a child, he is a sibling!  He’s not a neice or nephew or child of a friend.  I think you are well within your rights to have a no children rule and give your little brother his own invitation…..and if anyone asks on the day why there’s a child there, just tell them he’s your brother so of course he’s there

I agree with Lacey… siblings dont count. We arent having kids either with the exception of my 3 yr old nephew who will be page boy at the ceremony, but we have organised his usual babysitter to look after him for the ceremony. We are having a cocktail party which really doesnt cater for kids… I havent had any dramas yet, I’ve found that the parents are actually looking forward to a night off from usual duties Good luck

we are having my neice-to-be at the reception and that’s it. end of story. no other children. she is the only child of my sister in law to be and my brother’s family is very close.

we are inviting other children to the ceremony however, and are making them separate invitations with the ceremony details on it only. we are also saying on the parent’s invitations that the reception is an adults only event.

this one tore at me for a while, because i am “aunty” to a few little ones who i love and adore. but after discussions with my other half and newly wed friends i realised that maybe it wasn’t such a good idea. It gives the parent’s a night off too and you don’t have to worry about little ones poking their fingers in the cake (my reccuring nightmare at the moment!) and running around.

i agree completely with the other girls – your stepbrother is a sibling so it’s perfectly acceptable to have him and not extended family.  if you are worried about family reactions maybe organise a babysitter/sleepover at a central family member’s house – hire some movies for them, get some games.. they have a great night and you do too!

We are having 15 kids at our wedding ranging from babies to teens. I think children are wonderful at a wedding. They fill the dance floor and make it fun. We are inviting all the kids in the family (not friends kids because we cant afford it). Its a real pain for parents to find a babysitter and I found at weddings I have been to that people leave early to get back home to their children and people who brought their kids stayed and enjoyed the party, it didnt matter their little ones had one late night, they were buzzing on excitement. Noisy kids aren’t so bad, although I have a 3 yr old so maybe I’m just used to it!! It all depends on what kind of atmosphere you want.

we are having a no kids rule except for any newborns.

my problem is a friend of mine will have a 13 month old by that stage which she will probably still be breastfeeding. how to get around this? considering it’s a weekend wedding I understand if they feel they can’t leave their baby (therefore not being able to attend) but they are very close friends who I would dearly love to have there. not sure how to get around this apart from suggesting her sister come with them to care for the baby while they are at the wedding itself. I don’t mind having kids around for the other celebrations during the weekend.

You should have your wedding and reception how you want it. If you dont want kids there dont have them.

Me on the other hand, i have approx 30 kids coming to my wedding. i have 3 kids myself aged 9mths-6yrs and i know they would get bored with no-one to play with. i gave everyone the option to bring them or not. except for the people with really naughty kids.

My rule is no children under the age of 12, family excepeted and any children part of the wedding party! I put this on the invite so freinds know early.

We want kids at our wedding but not all.

We have our daughter who will be almost 5.5yrs and our son who will be 2.5year in our wedding party and we’d love to have friends kids there for our kids to play with. But we flat our draw the line with my FH’s neices and nephews (all 15 of them), they are not very well behaved and my FSILs (3 of) are likely to get drunk and leave their kids to my FMIL to look after (this is what happened at FHs olderest sister’s wedding last year) which I am not letting happen.

So we are having firends kids that are similar ages to our own and not inviting FHs neices and nephews (FSILs are likely to come without their partners, so the kids can stay home with their dads). I dont care if this starts arguements, I want to be able to enjoy mine and my FHs day and I want my FMIL to enjoy it too (it is her baby boy’s wedding and she supports our decision).