Guests & the bridal party

if your slowly planning a weeding over the next 2 years, when is the right time to ask your friends to be bm’s?
2 i know 100% i will be friends with in 2 years, an the rest im pretty sure but yeah you dont really know.

also is 6 too many? hubby to be cant choose less than 6 guys to be grooms men, there is his 2 brothers, 3 best mates and one primary school best mate who he was best man for. i have my 2 best best friends, 1 girl i grew up with who was like a sister, my closest friend in town (my besties live 2 hrs away :/) and then another gf to just bring my number up to the same as df’s lol and my bf from priamry who i was bm for and we ‘made a pac’ to be bm’s for each other.

i dont mind having that many, but will it look like too many? will it seem abit silly?

thanks!

6 BM’s/GM’s is quite a lot by Australian wedding standards but if that is what you want then why not? However I will say that you don’t have to have matching sides!

On average it is suggested not to ask the bridal party before 6 months out for the fact that relationships change (no matter how secure you think the relationship is) and once asked it is considered extremely impolite to unask! A year is average for a DW (just so they have time to save).

Good luck

Hi Mummy C

I assumed my 2 best friends were going to be bridesmaids, pretty much since I started planning my wedding, which was about 5 years before I met FH lol. It has always been something we sat and talked about over coffee and wine during girl chat, and I think all involved (FH, Mum and Dad, my 2 friends, siblings etc) just assumed that those two would be my bridesmaids. I’m not even sure I asked them! Hm. My other two are my little sister, who the second I announced my engagement blasted out with “Can I be a bridesmaid?!” (Ah, the tactfullness of 16 year old women…) and FH’s sister, who I get along with like a house on fire.

I had the 4 of them concreted in and in planning mode from the second the ring was on my finger, which was April last year. Our wedding is April 2013. (so they will have been asked 2 years prior to the day)

In another instance, one of my bridesmaids got engaged before me, she asked me about a week after her engagement, which was before she set a date. She ended up getting married about 11 months after her engagement. 

I think it depends on what sort of relationship you have. I can not imagine having anyone but these 4 by my side on our day, and anyone who knows me would have been able to tell you this without asking me. They have been my pick for the last probably 7-10 years (except FSIL, as I only met her through FH). 

I also think I would find it hard, as I am such a big planner and a HUGE talker, I had the whole wedding planned from about 5 minutes after I met FH, that if I didn’t tell these people they were in my bridal party, I would have put my foot in it quite quickly by saying something like “So I think that you should wear this colour and Jade should wear this colour” etc. 

In your case though, if you REALLY KNOW that the 2 will definitely be in the bridal party, can you just ask them and if anyone asks, tell them your still thinking about whether you will have more?