Bothered brides

helllllllp…..really need some advice on this one

The story so far is that I have been engaged for almost 2 years, planned the wedding twice, and cancelled twice (unavoidable things came up, sickness etc). Third time lucky, right? Not so here. Started planning it again in August last year, 12 months out from the date we set. Having had to cancel twice before, we kept it kind of quiet that we were attempting wedding #3, however recently my cousin has announced her engagement…and wedding, all in the one phone call to my mother. Apparently she had booked and organised everything well before she even got engaged. Her date is set for way too close to mine, considering that we have mutual close family on the guest lists that would need to travel interstate. She has not called me or emailed, and doesnt have any idea that our wedding is planned for around the same time. I don’t really know what to do – should I call her? Should I cancel again? What a mess….

Hmmmm, that is tricky. But I dont think you can ask her to change her date seeing as you hadnt told anyone what your date was. If guests need to travel interstate I think a week apart would be sufficient. Is it even possible to change your date without losing money?

Jo x

How close are the two dates? I think 2 – 3 weeks apart are fine for family weddings or even a week apart so the interstate guests could block a 10 day holiday in?

Jojo is right you can not ask them to move their date. It seems that they have done the right thing and spread the word about their date.

I certainly wouldn’t call her because if she hasn’t rung you it may be because you wont be invited to the wedding and you could make her feel really awkward.