Bothered brides

Ok so over the past 2 years (before we got engaged!) I lost about 26kg going from a size 14-16 to now a 10-12 but ever since we got engaged my Mum and my FMIL, as well as other friends & family, has been telling me I better start working out more (I work out with a PT 4 x per week and walk my two BIG dogs 6 days a week) and eating better! I feel insulted and like they arent aknowledging the fact that I already lost a ton of weight! And as our wedding is in 25 days its stressing me out! I didnt want to lose any more weight but now I feel like I have to and all these people think Im not gonna look good on my wedding day Sorry to rant but I need to get it off my chest and see if anyone else out there is stressed to the max about how they will look on their wedding day!

Firstly congratulations on the weightloss…..it must be so satisfying to see the hard work pay off!

You will look beautiful on your wedding day……….every bride does but I think that has more to do with the beautiful glow from inside than their body shape!

It is just a bride thing that people feel they can comment on when you get married. Don’t listen to them…listen to yourself…are you happy with how you look? Then just thank them for their concern and change the topic.  Will it be tough to hear…of course but don’t let it get you down…your FI obviously loves you for who you are not what you looklike and that is the most important thing for your wedding!

My mum keeps a countdown for me that she constantly reminds me of (you only have 6 months left have you exercised today). I am sure they are not trying to be malicious, they just want to encourage you so you’ll be happy when you look at your wedding photos! Well at least thats what I tell myself! lol

Congratulations on your weight loss.  I think the comments are just because you are a bride.  People have asked if I am trying to lose weight before the wedding (even though I am a size 8).  If I say no when someone offers me something to eat then people will ask if I am on a diet before the wedding.  They seemed shocked if I say I am not trying to lose weight.  People seem to think they can say anything (the same way people seem to think it is ok to touch a pregnant woman’s belly).  Try not to take it personally, even though it can be difficult.

Beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes, and skinny isn’t always best. 26kg is an AMAZING effort and you should be very proud of yourself! Your FH obviously loved you before you lost the weight, and I’m sure he thought you were beautiful just the way you were. Just imagine the look on his face when he sees how beautiful you are on your wedding day!

Gee hun, i really envy you. I am a size 16 and would love to be able to fit a size 10 dress. unfortunatly i struggle with willpower and it doesnt help that my wedding isnt for a few years so i dont have that extra sense of urgency. I do walk my puppies a few times a week but we cant go too far because they tire quickly.

Dont let them get to you. For some reason people always assume brides are going to loose weight, like we have to make some magical transformation into the perfect bride. Your FH loves you as you are and you should be very proud of yourself for your success. You need to be happy within yourself and that will shine through making you the most beautiful bride you can be. If that doesnt help then think of it like this – your fiance is marrying you, not your waist line.

Goodluck!

Firstly, congratulations on the weight loss!  That’s something you should be proud of, don’t let anyone make you feel like it’s not enough – every little thing you do to be healthier is a great thing for yourself.

IMHO, these people are probably former brides who felt they had to lose weight for their wedding, or people who feel they will have to lose weight when it’s their turn.  I have been a size 10 for years, which I think is a perfectly acceptable size, and yet I still have had people ask if I’m planning on losing weight.  I’m saying hell no, why would I order a dress my size and pay so much for it then work so hard it won’t fit me by the time the day i’m supposed to wear it comes around?

If people are going to think you don’t look good on your wedding day, of all days, then those aren’t really people you’d want at your wedding anyway.

I sometimes think that when people demonstrate willpower, such as saying no to a tempting piece of cake because you’re either a) not hungry or b) just don’t think it’s a healthy thing to put in your body, it makes them feel bad about their lack of willpower and they have to look for a reason.  They can’t just accept that at that point in time, you just don’t want a cake or are perfectly happy with the way you are, because it’s not something they can relate to.

Maybe just say “No, I’ve already put in the hard work to get to where I am, and I’m comfortable that this is a healthy weight for me.”  Or, if it’s really getting to you, say something sarcastic like “And look half-starved in my wedding photos?  No thanks, I prefer to be healthy and happy like I am now.”  That ought to put a stop to it

Congratulations on losing all that weight and you two have a lovely wedding ,

tell everyone to lay off you have enough on your plate “scuse the pun” Just quietly go into your room alone and in a full length mirror really look at yourself and if you are happy with whatyou have achieved congratulate your self, if not work harder on it and strongly advise all to not say another word or you will elope so there will be no need for them to worry about your weight all brides look wonderful they have a glow about them like and Angel so just go for it I have married thousands all shapes and sizes 98% wonderful brides the other 2% we wont discuss

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It sounds like you have done a fantastic job losing your weight. They’re probably just saying what they’d say to any bride-to-be as part of the ‘rev up’ process. I know I’ve been having many discussions related to my hindquarters with all the girls at work lately!

At 25 days to go it’s time to relax and enjoy the lead-up. Keep doing what you’re doing and next time some asks tell them you’re very happy with yourself thank you very much – and ask how they’ll be fitting into their dress for the occasion