Bothered brides

I’ve been with my FH for almost 2 years now, and we’re getting married in 18 days… I just found out that a year ago, while we were dating, and after I had moved 8,000 miles around the world to be in the same country as him,  he was messing around with other chicks… and now I don’t know what to do… it was a year ago, so does that mean it’s been too long for me to mention it, a lot’s happened since then, i’ve moved in, we got engaged, so does it even matter anymore? of course it does, it will always be in the back of my mind, but do i mention it?… GAH idk anymore :’(

Oh my god, this sucks!
First off the bat, I am assuming he is not aware that you know these things.
I definitely think this needs to be brought up with him before the wedding – if you’re a bundle of nerves about this now, how are you going to feel on the big day burdened with this knowledge? Do you really think you’ll be able to look him in the eye and make vows to someone you feel like you don’t even know?
You need to have a calm chat about this (as hard as staying calm will be! He will already be on the defensive due to the nature of the conversation – if you go in all guns blazing, he’s more likely to be on the attack as well). You cannot enter into a successful marriage with secrets this big, and you need to place the ball firmly in his court – he needs to either apologise profusely and give you absolute reassurance that marriage is the right thing to do; or he’ll clam up completely, deny deny deny, and you’ll have to choose whether or not you believe him. Either way – this will take a LOT of thinking and soul searching on your part. Don’t waste one more day! Tell him – if you’re going to make a decision, it needs to be an educated one.
All the very best!
xx

Sending you a massive hug, this would suck. 
I would definitely talk to him about it, so you are not forever thinking about it. Get the details straight from the horses mouth

OMG you poor thing.
Yes i agree with all the girls it needs to be addressed. But firstly where did the info come from??? are they reliable? you dont want to start off your marriage with a heavy handed accusation. But you should def be able to talk and be honest with one another. If you dont talk about it its a horrible thought you will have hanging in the back of your mind.
You also need to have a good think and decide that if the outcome isnt what you want will you stay or leave. Its a horrible thing to have to sit and think about but you need to be honest with yourself. and its better to get this all sorted an aired out now. imagine getting married and in 3 months its all to much and you guys get divorced.
awwwww this is so terrible. Sorry you have to go through this at all let alone right before your wedding. and im sure its not relevant but who ever told you i think is just cruel! they couldnt have brought this up well before now???!! why was now the time to open their mouth.
good luck hope it all goes well.

I know how you feel.
Our wedding is/was scheduled for 30/9/12 when I found out 3.5 weeks before the wedding that he had kept a secret from me that certainly shattered my happiness.
After 24hours of silent treatment/crying/soul searching, we had a talk & decided to postpone the wedding until we could sort things out.
I agree with what the other girls say, things definately need to be talked about, no matter how difficult the subject is to raise. You CAN NOT go into a marriage with these sorts of secrets, it will only lead to heartbreak or hatred.
I really hope you have been able to work things out or decide what you need to do.
My thoughts are certainly with you. Best of luck *hugs*

I have to agree as well. It has to be discussed. You need to be certain that this isn’t going to happen again. A year is a long time, but so is a lifetime. You’re marrying him for life, so it’s best to get all the secrets out in the air and dealt with so you don’t spend your first few months of marriage constantly thinking about it.
I would say to even go to a marriage counsellor, just so there’s a mediator between you. Things are less likely to get heated, and there’s someone there who’s neutral so won’t take sides, but can still offer some really good advice.
But most importantly, if you are 100% sure that this happened a year ago, look for honesty on his part. If you sit down to discuss it and he denies it, I wouldn’t count that as a good thing for the future. He’s then more likely to deny something else in the future.
I wish you all the best of luck!!!