Who Picks the Engagement Rings?

A few months before we got engaged, my fiancé Andy asked me, “Hypothetically, if I were ever to propose, would you want me to choose the ring, or would you want to choose it together? Hypothetically speaking, of course.”

Firstly, I had to pretend that this was a normal, every day hypothetical conversation. (After all, this was coming from the man who asks questions like, “Would you rather have really really big hands, or really really big feet?” I went with the really really big feet.)

Secondly, I had to really think about this. On one hand, I really like the tradition of a ring being a part of the proposal, as a symbol of the intent to marry.

On the other hand, I want to ensure that the ring is something I absolutely adore. After all, Tiffany & Co. estimates that a woman will look at her engagement ring an average of a million times over the course of her lifetime. I know that I would love anything that Andy gave me, but I also want to make sure that it’s something that reflects both of us, and our future together.

So in the end, I told Andy that I would prefer to choose the ring together (hypothetically), but that if my (hypothetical) fiancé would like to propose with a fake ring to seal the deal, then that would be ideal.

And my gorgeous, thoughtful and non-hypothetical fiancé did exactly that.

Did you choose your own engagement ring? Did you design it together? Or did your fiancé choose it for you?