The Great Debate: Perth or Auckland?

New bride Abby and her fiance decide where they’ll be wed.

by @Abby Phillips

The Great Debate: Perth or Auckland?

Having our wedding here in Perth instead of at home in New Zealand was not a decision that my fiancé and I took lightly. We moved here 18 months ago in search of a different lifestyle and to spend some time with my Dad and brothers. I left behind the rest of my family, including my Mum in Auckland and my beloved left everyone he knew to join me – lucky, I know. In only a matter of weeks, we fell in love with the alfresco way of life, the vibrancy created by the festivals and events, and of course the brilliant weather that makes it all possible.

There were many discussions and long lists of pros and cons comparing Perth and New Zealand. We were concerned that if we held our wedding in Perth no one would be able to make the trip. On the other hand, trying to organise venues and suppliers in another country was proving very stressful. I have to admit that I have a little trouble delegating or as I prefer to say, I am a very hands on organiser.

We talked to our parents, extended family and friends ultimately we realised that the most important people would make the effort and join us in Perth to celebrate. Our Save the Date e-cards have been sent to our overseas guests and most people have responded positively. In fact, many of them were so excited to have an excuse for a holiday that in the end our decision was easy.

Diary of a bride: Abby - Perth city centre

I have shed a few tears when a couple of important people said they probably would not make it. However, I realised that I need to be prepared for a little disappointment if I am to have my wedding so far away. It is simply not reasonable to expect everyone to be able to afford the extra cost and time off work. Nevertheless you can make it easier for them; here are a couple of tips:

Have your ceremony and reception at the same venue.

If you decide to have your reception an hour’s drive from your ceremony, your out-of-town guests will possibly have to hire cars and drive unfamiliar roads. It would be much easier for them and yourself, if you can find a venue you love that can work for your entire day. You will find your guests are more relaxed and therefore your day will be much more enjoyable.

Negotiate a great accommodation rate for group bookings.

If you can organise your friends and family early enough then you might be able to get a great accommodation rate based on a large group booking. Shop around a little and once you decide you can include a card in your invitations to tell people how to book. In addition, if you have your wedding at a venue that also has accommodation the function rates can be very competitive.

The excitement is now brewing as everyone knows the date and our planning is well underway. We are going to show our guests why we fell in love with Perth and what our new life is like, so they understand our decision to tie the knot here. It is a great opportunity to organise an amazing holiday for our loved ones, celebrating for a few weeks instead of just one day.
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SarahandSpike, OTHER


Hi Abby,
Fiancée and myself moved to Melbourne the beginning of the year (prior to this we had lived in London for 6 months and travelled for 10 months before this). It had been a while since we have lived at home in New Zealand. However, for us it was an easy choice. Having spent so much time away we new home important New Zealand was to us and that we wanted to get married at home.
Without a doubt this has come with A LOT of challenges. Only a couple of months into the planning and I have struggled getting in touch with vendors and have made almost all decisions on a “hope for the best basis” as we haven’t been able to visit our reception venue or meet our caterers.
Regardless of the stress this has all brought about I still don’t think I would change it for the world. New Zealand is where most of our family and friends are and we have a number of people who would not be able to make it largely due to financial and work commitments (both of our expended families are made up of a large number of dairy farmers) if we had had out wedding elsewhere (be it Australia or destination wedding).
For us this was the right choice – even if it has made it SO much harder to organise and relies on controlling me to take a step back and let others make decisions for me or trust the vendors will be what they promise.
Good luck with your journey and enjoy the planning process with slightly less stress than you would have you had chosen NZ.
Sarah

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