Two Bridesmaids, One Bridesman
What is a bride to do when one of her dearest friends is her 23-year-old male cousin? Ask him to be a bridesman, that’s what! Yes, you read correct Knotties I did write bridesman. My best friend Anna (the lovely bride) will have her cousin John walk down the aisle, and stand right next to Anna’s sister and I on her side of the church. John will also be wearing something that signifies he is in her bridal party and not just another buck. So far we haven’t decided what that special something will be, but I was thinking perhaps his tie or a flower the same colour as our dresses. Do you have any other suggestions?
This may seem as an unconventional, non-traditional approach but it actually isn’t a new thing (there’s even a movie about bridesmen starring Patrick Dempsey circa 2008!). The more research I do, the more bridesmen examples I find. However, I’ll have to say that out of all the weddings I have been to, or heard about, this will probably be the first to have a bridesman.
Even though some people might think it’s too much of a step away from a traditional wedding, I actually think it’s a very lovely gesture. It’s heart warming to know that she loves him so much to break away from the stereotype of a typical bridal party and make a statement about how close they actually are. He could have easily been another buck, but it is so much more special and meaningful this way, don’t you think?
John will most probably be walking into the reception with the best man and myself, while some funky song plays in the background. Now the question might cross your mind, who will John dance with once the bridal party are called to the floor? Don’t worry, Anna has that covered with another non-traditional approach. Each member of the bridal party will ask their real partners to dance – I would ask my boyfriend Dean, who isn’t in the bridal party, to join me in a slow dance. I think this idea is great because I’m a sucker for all things romantic and wedding-y. Considering this is my first time as a bridesmaid, I’d much rather be dancing with my boyfriend than someone else and feel awkward. On the flip side though, I don’t think Dean is too keen on having lots of people he doesn’t know watching him dance. Everyone in the bridal party, besides John, has a partner to dance with so when it comes time to get up he’s already said “I’ll need to find a hot date or just walk up to the prettiest girl and ask her to dance!”. Smooth.
So what do the Knotties think about all this, is it too left field? Has anyone ever had, or planning on having a bridesman? Or does anyone have any ideas about how I can get Dean to warm up to the idea of dancing with the bridal party?
Bridesmaid Anda and bridesman John