Bridesmaids Behaving Badly
You’ve chosen your best friends to be your bridesmaids, so surely nothing could go wrong. Right? Bridesmaid Alisa discovers this isn’t always the case.
by Alisa Walters
I love the scene in the movie Bridesmaids where Annie, bridesmaid and recently fired MOH, absolutely loses it at best friend Lillian’s bridal shower.
She overturns tables, throws grass into the chocolate fountain and launches a full scale attack on the oversized heart cookie. And this is after giving everyone food poisoning, getting them all kicked off a plane and ruining the hens night! Definitely not a contender for ‘Bridesmaid of the Year!’
Watching this scene, it is very easy to believe it is complete work of fiction, dreamed up by script writers and comedians. Surely a bride’s closest friends would be supportive and happy in the lead up to such a special occasion which, for all intents and purposes, is also a once in a lifetime event. Surely…?
In the lead up to my own wedding, I remember being told bridesmaid horror stories.
After weeks of mounting tension, at a friend’s brother’s wedding, the bridesmaids cracked on the morning of the wedding, hurling insults and finger sandwiches at each other, when they should have been getting ready! Let’s just say that they didn’t stay in touch!!
Another friend’s sister, sick of the constant arguments from her own bridal party, ended up eloping far, far away from the bickering!
Outrageous stuff, huh? But even after hearing these stories of bridesmaids behaving badly, I was secretly smug. I had carefully chosen my oldest friends, and knew that they would never do anything like that.
But, just like Annie, one of my bridesmaids cracked; faltering at just about every key bridesmaid-ing task in the lead up to the wedding.
Then, on my wedding day she went AWOL 15 minutes before the ceremony, traipsing around the city to find an open bottle-shop! I was having a heart attack thinking we were going to be late. She came back just as we were leaving. The day ended with her accusing another bridesmaid of flirting with her boyfriend, even though said boyfriend-stealer had her own boyfriend there! As you can imagine, our friendship never recovered!
And now poor Jill is having her own share of bridesmaid-ing issues. A friend, who was not asked to be bridesmaid, got extremely angry with Jill and demanded an explanation as to her lack of bridesmaid status. Oh dear! Jill, the lovely person that she is had no idea how to respond! I don’t think I would either.
What is it about a wedding that brings out this type of behavior? What other bridesmaid horror stories have you heard?
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blushing bride to be, QLD
One of my own (ex) bridesmaid was asked to be a maid of honour at one her best friends wedding. She told me the horror story of her own after i had asked. On the day of best friends wedding she got ready and dressed then a fight with her ex boyfriend caused her to leave 5 mins before the ceromony!!!!! Lets just say I scared me alot!!!!! After many months of trying to get a hold of her and failing everytime, my partner and I decided to follow our heads and our gut feelings. She is no longer a bridesmaid and funnily enough she sent me a message tonight saying that she hasnt had the time because she busy at work or drunk!!! Now we know we did the right thing
Arlie-Elle
My (ex) bridesmaid AKA my older sister was very jealous that I was marrying before her.. even though it had nothing to do with our decision to get married, posted my wedding dress on facebook!! For the world to see.. I kindly asked her to take it down, after refusing I told her she will not be apart of the wedding. I now have 3 other wonderful bridesmaids and are so excited for my wedding in 3 months!!